|There was a recliner here!|
|Missing: Flatscreen TV|
|My stuff piled on the floor|
Before leaving, he gave me three bags of candy that I really love, bought special cheese at the Amish market that I absolutely adore.... but then there was the accidental text he meant to send to a friend that gave me pause, "Pattie just told me she will be leaving around 2. Plan on just after." When I questioned him about the text, he said it was meant for my middle son and never replied when I asked why he would call me 'Pattie' to one of our kids. I gave him the benefit of doubt, because I always thought him to be a gentleman and never thought him capable of what he did next.
I headed to Raleigh with the candy. When I returned home, furniture was missing. The large flatscreen TV, stand and Lazy Boy..... then came the text, "Just so you know I have started to move out........" Then he called one of my friends to tell them.....so they could come over. The next day, I found out he had already told our neighbors across the street before moving out!
|Piles of my stuff|
I'm not posting this to get into how our marriage got to this point. It takes two- even if he says it's all me! It's been a rough 7 weeks. No matter our problems, no one should ever end a relationship via text message or leave a dependent wife who stayed home for 23 1/2 years raising kids, homeschooling for 17 years and taking care of chronically ill children for over 20 of those years (or any dependent wife, really-- ) I have never been he perfect wife and mother, but I tried my best and tried to live my Catholic Faith. We lost 19 pregnancies together, as many of my readers may remember..... we've had many trials, just as any marriage does.
I'm still wearing my rings....I'm still trying to live my Catholic Faith, as imperfect as I am. Please pray for me and for our boys.
I posted the following on Facebook because so many people can't understand WHY I am still wearing my wedding (and engagement) ring 7 weeks later. As Carla from Cheers said, "Catholicism ain't a religion for wimps." ....... I thought I would share this on my blog as I 'come out of the closet" to say: My husband left me and I'm still trying to live a Catholic Life!
"As a practicing Catholic, I will wear my wedding ring because separation and/or civil divorce do not end a marriage.
Unless a pronouncement of nullity is made by a Church Tribunal, a man and a woman are still bound to the covenant made on their wedding day. Divorce is a civil proceeding which only separates the spouses (civilly/legally), divides property, and sets spousal support requirements. It has no power to determine the sacramental validity of a marriage.
Relationships (dating, remarriage) with the opposite sex outside of marriage = adultery. Period. So I won't be dating (ahem, cheating on) my spouse.
I don't care what he is or is not doing with his wedding ring. It would be all too easy for me to toss the ring aside and forget. So, it also serves as a reminder to me that, while the world may see me as 'single', I am not. I am married. Suffering exists in the world- separation and/or divorce are lonely situations and, IMO, pretending to be 'single' will only make the suffering worse.
I'm posting this because I cannot even count on both hands and feet the number of people who have asked me why I still have my wedding ring on (and/or told me to take it off). I am not asking anyone to believe what I believe or to practice what I believe. I'm not delusional, I am just practicing my faith and offering it up.
Be bold. Be Courageous. Love Jesus and live your Faith. #BoldCatholic
I may feel differently tomorrow, next week or next year.....but without an annulment, highly unlikely."
I had a cyst removed a few weeks later and the stitches removed the day before Thanksgiving! Trying to fit everything I need done in before I am dropped from insurance. However, right now, my first priority is getting a better car. I know that if I have reliable transportation, I can work. If I can work, we will survive.
2 Thessalonians 3:10 -He who is unwilling to work shall not eat.
After 7 weeks, I decided I would blog about my journey through separation and hopefully draw strength from sharing. Pray for me to continue to be a faithful Catholic during this trial and beyond.
*****warning***** *graphic surgery photos below*****
Having two boys who have ben under over 85 times, surgery and medical pictures don't bother me a bit. The pin sticking out of my toe you see below was removed 2 weeks after my husband left. The cyst on that same leg that was removed was benign and is still healing after having stitches removed the day before Thanksgiving.